tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post6621258098116712409..comments2023-12-26T18:33:04.681-08:00Comments on Writability: When They Don't UnderstandGabe (Ava Jae)http://www.blogger.com/profile/04778524723148508140noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-19963835516529440812011-08-18T08:39:28.987-07:002011-08-18T08:39:28.987-07:00OMG, so true!OMG, so true!Jacquelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11646450951770742173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-33806992268695042132011-08-16T16:46:04.344-07:002011-08-16T16:46:04.344-07:00Hahaha!
This post sums up my entire weekend!
I ha...Hahaha! <br />This post sums up my entire weekend!<br />I had some family over and they kind of skirted around the subject of my writing, until I found my "in" to talk about my book. <br />I told them it was coming out later this year. <br />Step-mom says, "Oh, you got PUBLISHED?!"<br />I say, "Well, I'm self-publishing."<br />Her face drops and she says, "Oh, right. The self-publishing thing."<br /><br />Hmmm....<br /><br />:D Great post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-16184630311050741672011-08-14T12:57:46.693-07:002011-08-14T12:57:46.693-07:00LOL that is so true! :D
Then again, I can't c...LOL that is so true! :D<br /><br />Then again, I can't complain 'cause my family (especially my dad, my sister and my boyfriend) are still very encouraging. Like, they'd never condone my leaving my job or dropping out of university to "just write", but I know they believe in my writing ability and they see the hard work I put in.<br /><br />I mentioned Lisa Kleypas's story to my dad (her parents financed her for a couple of months after she graduated, during which time she wrote a novel and managed to get a publishing deal on it, and that was the beginning of her successful writing career). He said he could imagine doing that for me... But I'm just not that self-confident. Yet.<br /><br />I'm also not that desperate. I know that I want to write novels and I hope I will someday get published, but in a way, it's only one of the many things I want to do in my life. If I achieve my dream when I'm over 30, or even 40, it will still be exactly that: the realization of a dream. And I'm sure whatever I've done before will not feel like a sacrifice then, but like valuable experience.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-24546929540085569832011-08-13T12:49:13.915-07:002011-08-13T12:49:13.915-07:00The truth? It was just drawn in this post.The truth? It was just drawn in this post.The East Coasterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00079925217846916286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-15393217938057628192011-08-13T05:10:51.655-07:002011-08-13T05:10:51.655-07:00Luckily, my husband and I are in a good spot becau...Luckily, my husband and I are in a good spot because his income is sufficient for us, so there isn't any pressure for me to sell, sell, sell. Thank goodness, lol. But as the family circle extends outward, though they're very supportive, I do think they see my writing as more of a hobby--probably because I'm not published. Clearly, if I was SERIOUS about writing, I would have achieved results by now, right? Instead of just piddling around with it. You're right, Ava. To whatever extent, non-writers just don't understand.<br /><br />Becca @ The Bookshelf MuseBecca Puglisihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08945707666707799601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-59850734437451245442011-08-12T14:46:43.730-07:002011-08-12T14:46:43.730-07:00Ava, you've described (and graphed!) this perf...Ava, you've described (and graphed!) this perfectly! It IS because they care for us, or with spouses, have to live with us and share our income (or lack of it).<br /><br />I love this post lots.<br /><br />Also, I believe some personality types are more comfortable w/ taking these risks than others. We should honor both types.S.P. Sipalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17943968424012034217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-86883439573845781092011-08-12T12:48:10.264-07:002011-08-12T12:48:10.264-07:00@Alivia
You're never alone, there is always a...@Alivia<br /><br />You're never alone, there is always <i>always</i> someone out there who knows exactly what you're going through. :) <br /><br />@Susan<br /><br />I saw your post and I think that's exactly it. Sometimes when we're dealing with discouragement from people we care about we forget about what it must be like for them looking at us. It's not an easy thing to do, but it helps tremendously, especially if it's starting to get to you.Gabe (Ava Jae)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04778524723148508140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-79203684559207354132011-08-12T12:39:43.398-07:002011-08-12T12:39:43.398-07:00First, I absolutely love graphs, so thank you for ...First, I absolutely love graphs, so thank you for that. And I think you're absolutely right! I even <a href="http://www.susankayequinn.com/2011/08/repost-taking-road-less-traveled.html" rel="nofollow">posted</a> about how hard it is to support the dreams of your kids (who you care about more than your very soul), when you're afraid of them taking the risky path. But it's because you love them <i>so very much</i>.Susan Kaye Quinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07348197999397141067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-54156196217850786452011-08-12T10:20:40.095-07:002011-08-12T10:20:40.095-07:00Ava, I think you read my mind when you posted this...Ava, I think you read my mind when you posted this. Because as of late, I've been going through the same thing. My parents don't see the work I put into my writing, they just think, "Well, are you going go college or ever going to make something of yourself? How about a real job?" And all I do is fume, because it feels like they don't care! How dare they downsize my working accomplishments into a compartment smaller than carry-on for a plane ride? <br /><br />My friends are the same. Most nod and say it's cool, but when it comes to talking about it, forget it. They're off in their own worlds, and it hurts. Some have even told me flat out, "You're not going to make it. Just go get a degree and hit the work force like the rest of us." How depressing! <br /><br />But this, this made me smile. I don't feel alone. Thank you.Aliviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05567218385782776385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-15134389382039728432011-08-12T09:22:00.519-07:002011-08-12T09:22:00.519-07:00Once people start to see something they consider p...Once people start to see something they consider productive come out of your writing (whether publishing or social media prowess...what-have-you)they tend to come around. <br /><br />@Joe<br /><br />Good luck at school (Creative Writing degree, right?). Sounds like a lot of fun! ^_^ <br /><br />@Michele <br /><br />It looks like your degree in psychology helped your writing, right? At least in character development (since you made psychological profiles of your characters). Have you found other uses for it?Gabe (Ava Jae)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04778524723148508140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-47630891615674013612011-08-12T09:08:50.448-07:002011-08-12T09:08:50.448-07:00Great article, I can definitely relate! I was ABD ...Great article, I can definitely relate! I was ABD for a doctorate in psychology when I realized I was doing it for everyone else, not myself, and hated my life. I said, "The heck with that!" and quit. Family panicked, friends gaped, acquaintances were puzzled. <br /><br />People have started to come around now that I've been published in an anthology and had other nibbles for my short stories, but I doubt things will change significantly until I get that first book deal. They simply don't understand how much work is involved before you ever approach publication! I touched on that today in my blog, so it was kind of cool to see someone else addressing a similar topic.<br /><br />@Francesca: I don't think that's weird at all, I actually sat down and created psychological profiles of a sort on all my characters--needs, desires, conflicts, etc. Helped immensely!Michele Garberhttp://michelegarber.com/darkreflections/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-12434727598105180452011-08-12T07:29:21.290-07:002011-08-12T07:29:21.290-07:00Great post! And I decided that I was a writer way ...Great post! And I decided that I was a writer way back in high school much like you Francesca and my friend also thought that it was weird that I planned so much. I don't think people know how much blood, sweat, and tears go into writing a novel.<br /><br />My family doesn't approve, but they accept it and they see how much hard work that I put into writing--they've seen my now 1,000+ likes and 100 followers and that I'm going to university especially to study it. So now I think that they've calmed down on the whole "you need to find PROPER profession" or "how are you going to get money" rants :D<br /><br />Again, great post, Ava!<br /><br />~JoeJosephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16151193643717180025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-6427797049803761572011-08-12T07:10:28.336-07:002011-08-12T07:10:28.336-07:00@Leanne
I'm so glad to hear it! It's har...@Leanne <br /><br />I'm so glad to hear it! It's hard to deal with discouragement from family, but rest assured, they really do have the best intentions. :) <br /><br />@Francesca <br /><br />Lol! Charts for multiple characters is TOTALLY normal...for a writer. I've never revealed my piles of notebooks and maps and index cards to my friends. I can just imagine what they'd say. :DGabe (Ava Jae)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04778524723148508140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-11173931327978963872011-08-12T07:04:01.793-07:002011-08-12T07:04:01.793-07:00Oh my gosh, this. THIS.
1.) I'm putting that ...Oh my gosh, this. THIS. <br />1.) I'm putting that chart up in my room. <br />2.) I love my family and my friends, and I know that most of the time when they say "You're rewriting it AGAIN?!" they're just poking fun and they really do support me and take it seriously. But then there are times when they wonder why I spend so much time writing, why I have notebooks and notebooks full of research and outlines, and I realize that they don't really understand why I do it.<br /><br />(My friends actually laughed at me once when I pulled out the five-page age chart I made for the 50+ characters in my trilogy. I thought it was normal. They thought it was...strange.)Francesca Zappiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16876692064254806825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-80784412621369661032011-08-12T07:03:01.173-07:002011-08-12T07:03:01.173-07:00Great post! It makes perfect sense....now I don...Great post! It makes perfect sense....now I don't feel so bitter towards my family who don't seem all that supportive to me and make me feel my writing goals are just fluffy dreams.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-11002734707215579152011-08-12T05:56:55.042-07:002011-08-12T05:56:55.042-07:00Of course it's not just you! Loads of writers ...Of course it's not just you! Loads of writers go through this. LOADS!Gabe (Ava Jae)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04778524723148508140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-606209712314101104.post-25180257921795642382011-08-12T05:47:46.931-07:002011-08-12T05:47:46.931-07:00You mean, it's not just me????! Really??You mean, it's not just me????! Really??Carissa Andrewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09956041638794014466noreply@blogger.com